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How to Tell a Stale Friendship Source: Arre Comfort Umoren-Olorunnisomo Friendship is sweet when there is a two way flow and balanced communication. It is fun when you have that person(s) you can comfortably be you around and not get judged; one you can hang out with, laugh with, share secrets with and trust him/her to always have your back and tell you the truth regardless. Sometimes, friendship goes sour and since there are no laws stating that friendship must last forever, it should be seen as part of life. Friendship wears out for many reasons ranging from distance, change in social class/status, jealousy, change in values, new friends, betrayal and more. In some cases, there is a gradual wear and tear of the friendship tie that while one is still waiting, assuming and still contacting the other hoping to receive a quick response as before, the other has given up and moved on to other things. This can be both frustrating and annoying especially when there was no misund...

Episode II: 10 Deal Breakers in Intimate Relationships 5 . Substance Abuse Photo credit: News24 Although, support from a partner has been identified as one of the ways of helping people with addiction overcome the habit. Sticking with a partner who is deep into substance abuse and who has refused to seek help or lying about their abuse or not putting in enough effort to quit the act, can threaten the stability of the relationship and in some cases, the life of the other partner. Substance abuse could be alcohol, drug overdose or hard drugs; they can affect the mental health and life of the consumer and can make them violent. This has made some people made the choice of breaking off a relationship upon the discovery of any form of substance abuse. Some respondents also mentioned health risks, irrational behaviours and suicidal tendencies as likely reasons for making it a deal breaker in their relationships. 6. Stuck up with Ex This is indeed a big turn-off for most people. While it is O...

10 Common Deal Breakers in Intimate Relationships Comfort Umoren-Olorunnisomo Photo credit: A conscious rethink Relationship experts have identified several deal breakers and red flags which can and has led to the end of many relationships. An online survey I carried out also affirmed some of these deal breakers. Deal breakers in intimate relationships are traits, personalities or behaviours in a partner that could signal the end of the relationship if detected by the other partner. They are usually things the other person cannot accept, compromise on or tolerate in the other person. Relationships from dating to courtship to marriage can be bitter-sweet as it involves two people from different backgrounds, experiences and worldviews striving to understand and be there for each other through life. Sometimes, things get rosier but some other times, messier. In spite of these, some relationships still make it to the ‘forever’ finishing line while some die during or before they even start ...

Understanding your Ward’s Personality: How Well do you Know your Kids? Photo credit: Buzz blog By Comfort Umoren-Olorunnisomo Children are beautiful innocent little creatures who can wear you out with their energy yet give unexplainable joy with their smile. They are the younger version of us sometimes; they carry the personalities of both parents in their tiny little bodies. A child’s personality usually becomes more visible between ages 3 and 5. Psychologists have established there are four types of personalities common among children. While this may be true, a child may exhibit one or more of these personality traits. These personalities help us to understand our wards and how to train and guide them based on their uniqueness. Each child is unique, adopting the same method to raise them all may be favourable to some and damaging to others, just like plants, they require varied amount of water and techniques to grow well. Photo credit: Mark their words therapy This first set is the p...